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Thursday, November 02, 2006
The Rules
So there is this old rule when it comes to dating - regarding paying. Most girls will tell you that boys have to pay. I think on the first date at least, it is really nice of the boy to pay. Since we are in 2006, however, I kind of wonder of what the new Rule for this is.
Most of my (girl) friends are pretty powerful women. We went to an engineering school, we are usually the only female at work, and we are pretty tough. So, sometimes I think it's hard to take chivalry. Granted I don't really mind when a boy offers to pay or hold the door for me. Most of the time it's nice. But, when can I start paying? What's wrong if I want to pay?
I recently went on a date where I offered to pay for drinks. I was ready to hand over the bartender money before my date took the lead and took care of it. The bartender looked at me and said "Girls shouldn't pay!". I was a little shocked at this. If he pays for the cab, the dinner, why can't I be the one to pay for drinks?
To be honest, sometimes I feel like if a guy pays for everything it's like I am more obligated to do things in return - which I don't ever. Also, I'm a grown woman at this point. I make money, you don't need to always spend yours. Yes it's so great that you are willing to pay, but I guess all I'm saying is that it isn't always necessary.
Most of my (girl) friends are pretty powerful women. We went to an engineering school, we are usually the only female at work, and we are pretty tough. So, sometimes I think it's hard to take chivalry. Granted I don't really mind when a boy offers to pay or hold the door for me. Most of the time it's nice. But, when can I start paying? What's wrong if I want to pay?
I recently went on a date where I offered to pay for drinks. I was ready to hand over the bartender money before my date took the lead and took care of it. The bartender looked at me and said "Girls shouldn't pay!". I was a little shocked at this. If he pays for the cab, the dinner, why can't I be the one to pay for drinks?
To be honest, sometimes I feel like if a guy pays for everything it's like I am more obligated to do things in return - which I don't ever. Also, I'm a grown woman at this point. I make money, you don't need to always spend yours. Yes it's so great that you are willing to pay, but I guess all I'm saying is that it isn't always necessary.
posted by Kripsie, 10:30 AM
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