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Tuesday, November 14, 2006
Wooe Me
My friend Dave reminded me of a date I had recently. I went on a date with this kid and overall had a really good time. We got along really well, had a lot in common and it was just a fun day. BUT I am not yet ready to call mr.date my mr.husband cause well, he totally lost some points.
I think it's important to remember when you are on Date #1 - Date #5 that it is only Date #1 - Date #5. We have absolutely no ties to each other. I could leave in the middle of the date and hey thats allowed. I could go on Date #1 - Date #5 with someone else and you really couldn't say a thing. That's the whole fun and point of dating.
That is why I think it is important to put your best foot forward, to be as nice and polite as you can. I mean we all know that kind of goes downhill once you pass the honeymoon stage. That's why this is the time to do it. You need to woooe me buddy!
I mean I've learned my lesson too. I try to dress up, I try to plan fun stuff, I try to look cute, and I offer to pay. I have learned to refrain from making fun of my dates or being my overly sarcastic self right off the bat - cause well I don't think it's all that appealing.
So anyways, here are some traits that pretty much made Mr.date lose some killer points:
1) Yawning. I know you are jet-lagged and tired, but as much as you tell me it's not me, I still think it's me. It's pretty much the most annoying thing when I start to tell you a story or something about anything and you start yawning.
2) Talking on the phone. You may use saturday's to call your family, etc. but you should really do this BEFORE I get to your apartment. Do you really expect me to sit there for 25 minutes while you talk to your sister and brother-in-law? Cause that's what I did.
3) Talking on the phone. I know I mentioned this before, and I know the football game is close, but do we really have to call your Five while we are out?
4) Talking on the phone. (Last time I promise) Maybe you should try to make your plans for dinner that night after I leave. I mean I am pretty sure your 'friend' isn't your 2nd date but still, there is only so much tv I can watch.
Don't get me wrong, I still think mr.date is really fun and cool. I guess if I don't tell someone about his annoying-ness then he's just going to have to deal with it and well, we're still working on Date #3.
I think it's important to remember when you are on Date #1 - Date #5 that it is only Date #1 - Date #5. We have absolutely no ties to each other. I could leave in the middle of the date and hey thats allowed. I could go on Date #1 - Date #5 with someone else and you really couldn't say a thing. That's the whole fun and point of dating.
That is why I think it is important to put your best foot forward, to be as nice and polite as you can. I mean we all know that kind of goes downhill once you pass the honeymoon stage. That's why this is the time to do it. You need to woooe me buddy!
I mean I've learned my lesson too. I try to dress up, I try to plan fun stuff, I try to look cute, and I offer to pay. I have learned to refrain from making fun of my dates or being my overly sarcastic self right off the bat - cause well I don't think it's all that appealing.
So anyways, here are some traits that pretty much made Mr.date lose some killer points:
1) Yawning. I know you are jet-lagged and tired, but as much as you tell me it's not me, I still think it's me. It's pretty much the most annoying thing when I start to tell you a story or something about anything and you start yawning.
2) Talking on the phone. You may use saturday's to call your family, etc. but you should really do this BEFORE I get to your apartment. Do you really expect me to sit there for 25 minutes while you talk to your sister and brother-in-law? Cause that's what I did.
3) Talking on the phone. I know I mentioned this before, and I know the football game is close, but do we really have to call your Five while we are out?
4) Talking on the phone. (Last time I promise) Maybe you should try to make your plans for dinner that night after I leave. I mean I am pretty sure your 'friend' isn't your 2nd date but still, there is only so much tv I can watch.
Don't get me wrong, I still think mr.date is really fun and cool. I guess if I don't tell someone about his annoying-ness then he's just going to have to deal with it and well, we're still working on Date #3.
Don't be a baby
I think it is pretty clear to me at this point that I attract some weirdos. Most of the time I enjoy my dating life b/c it allows me to share it with you all. What is the point of having a bad date if we all can't laugh with me?
Apart from being a good date/bad date, there is also the time in-between that is kind of important. Will he call me? When is the next time we are going to talk? Does he like me? Blah blah.
I guess the thing with me is that I HATE the phone. No seriously, I hate it. I esp hate talking to BOYS on the phone. Cell phones are tricky in that sometimes you don't have good reception, sometimes the person on the other end is a mumbler, batteries might die, etc. Do you remember text message boy? Well I guess he kind went around the phone issue by constantly text messaging. It's cool - I have unlimited text's so I can handle it.
I guess the real problem is though that text message boy doesn't stop. If you are not my boyfriend (and even if you are) I don't want to talk to you every day. I don't think its necessary and pretty much I find it annoying.
So he has now become IM-er. Throughout the day at work he wants to chat here and there. I don't really like talking to my friends on this thing, why does he think I want to talk to him?! And today - since I didn't say hello, since I wasn't very receptive, he actually complained (ok not to me but my friend). AH!
I find all the babies. Be a man - who cares. Don't talk to me!!! Don't you know, the chase is part of the fun? Don't you know - I may be in a bad mood today? Don't you know - I don't want to talk to you every day? I talk to my own brother about once every 2-3 WEEKS. Why do I want to talk to you everyday?
Sigh. Boys got problems.
Apart from being a good date/bad date, there is also the time in-between that is kind of important. Will he call me? When is the next time we are going to talk? Does he like me? Blah blah.
I guess the thing with me is that I HATE the phone. No seriously, I hate it. I esp hate talking to BOYS on the phone. Cell phones are tricky in that sometimes you don't have good reception, sometimes the person on the other end is a mumbler, batteries might die, etc. Do you remember text message boy? Well I guess he kind went around the phone issue by constantly text messaging. It's cool - I have unlimited text's so I can handle it.
I guess the real problem is though that text message boy doesn't stop. If you are not my boyfriend (and even if you are) I don't want to talk to you every day. I don't think its necessary and pretty much I find it annoying.
So he has now become IM-er. Throughout the day at work he wants to chat here and there. I don't really like talking to my friends on this thing, why does he think I want to talk to him?! And today - since I didn't say hello, since I wasn't very receptive, he actually complained (ok not to me but my friend). AH!
I find all the babies. Be a man - who cares. Don't talk to me!!! Don't you know, the chase is part of the fun? Don't you know - I may be in a bad mood today? Don't you know - I don't want to talk to you every day? I talk to my own brother about once every 2-3 WEEKS. Why do I want to talk to you everyday?
Sigh. Boys got problems.
speed dizzle
so recently i went speed dating. i wasn't really expecting much from this experience but well to write about it and laugh about it of course. i think the concept of speed dating is great - meet a lot of people in a short amount of time - no strings attached.
i dragged my friend P along with me to this event. we almost wanted to bail at the last minute but the $64 i paid to initially sign up weighed heavily on our heads. I have to admit I was surprised at the amount of people that were there. Also, since this was a strictly a dating event, most people were very friendly. We had a bunch of people come up to us, strike up conversation, etc. I was also pretty surprised to find out that some of these guys had actually flown or driven through states to be there. Uh we live in the tri-state area and weren't all that anxious to go.
Some guys that came up actually made good conversation. This, however, was probably offset by some other factors. Guy1 was nice but after 5 min moved on to the next pack of chicks (playaaa or trying to be extremely efficient), Guy2 could not hold a conversation if his life depended on it (and made us suffer for a painful 15 minutes!!!), Guy3 was really cool but about 150 lbs heavier and 2 feet taller than me, Guy4 was nice but stood way too close to me.
The event was a cash bar, which, I think was a smart idea. I can't imagine being drunk and talking to me is really the best way to impress me (I stuck with coke all night). I was however kind of disappointed in the lack of food. There were appetizers but dinner wasn't officially served until 9:15. I was starving by that time. I think my last conversation consisted of only talking about how hungry I was. Whoops.
Overall, although I may have met about 20 different guys, I didn't really find the right one for me. I do believe that you can tell within a few minutes if you would like to hang out with someone else. I guess what I wasn't expecting was how quickly 3 minutes would go. 9 times out of 10 I was in the middle of a conversation when that bell rang. Then of course Guy2 (who couldn't hold a conversation) was again back at my table and since I already knew everything there was to know about him (he was a doctor and didn't know how to socialize) I was hoping 3 minutes would be 3 seconds.
I totally would recommend this to anyone that is thinking of doing it. Here are some Kripsie tips to help make it successful:
1) eat beforehand
2) don't get drunk watching football beforehand (uh yea that was me) - it only makes you tired
3) have some soft of method for you to write down if GuyX is a stud or not (without him seeing)
4) don't go to an indian speed dating event (i am so over these boys!)
i dragged my friend P along with me to this event. we almost wanted to bail at the last minute but the $64 i paid to initially sign up weighed heavily on our heads. I have to admit I was surprised at the amount of people that were there. Also, since this was a strictly a dating event, most people were very friendly. We had a bunch of people come up to us, strike up conversation, etc. I was also pretty surprised to find out that some of these guys had actually flown or driven through states to be there. Uh we live in the tri-state area and weren't all that anxious to go.
Some guys that came up actually made good conversation. This, however, was probably offset by some other factors. Guy1 was nice but after 5 min moved on to the next pack of chicks (playaaa or trying to be extremely efficient), Guy2 could not hold a conversation if his life depended on it (and made us suffer for a painful 15 minutes!!!), Guy3 was really cool but about 150 lbs heavier and 2 feet taller than me, Guy4 was nice but stood way too close to me.
The event was a cash bar, which, I think was a smart idea. I can't imagine being drunk and talking to me is really the best way to impress me (I stuck with coke all night). I was however kind of disappointed in the lack of food. There were appetizers but dinner wasn't officially served until 9:15. I was starving by that time. I think my last conversation consisted of only talking about how hungry I was. Whoops.
Overall, although I may have met about 20 different guys, I didn't really find the right one for me. I do believe that you can tell within a few minutes if you would like to hang out with someone else. I guess what I wasn't expecting was how quickly 3 minutes would go. 9 times out of 10 I was in the middle of a conversation when that bell rang. Then of course Guy2 (who couldn't hold a conversation) was again back at my table and since I already knew everything there was to know about him (he was a doctor and didn't know how to socialize) I was hoping 3 minutes would be 3 seconds.
I totally would recommend this to anyone that is thinking of doing it. Here are some Kripsie tips to help make it successful:
1) eat beforehand
2) don't get drunk watching football beforehand (uh yea that was me) - it only makes you tired
3) have some soft of method for you to write down if GuyX is a stud or not (without him seeing)
4) don't go to an indian speed dating event (i am so over these boys!)
Thursday, November 02, 2006
The Rules
So there is this old rule when it comes to dating - regarding paying. Most girls will tell you that boys have to pay. I think on the first date at least, it is really nice of the boy to pay. Since we are in 2006, however, I kind of wonder of what the new Rule for this is.
Most of my (girl) friends are pretty powerful women. We went to an engineering school, we are usually the only female at work, and we are pretty tough. So, sometimes I think it's hard to take chivalry. Granted I don't really mind when a boy offers to pay or hold the door for me. Most of the time it's nice. But, when can I start paying? What's wrong if I want to pay?
I recently went on a date where I offered to pay for drinks. I was ready to hand over the bartender money before my date took the lead and took care of it. The bartender looked at me and said "Girls shouldn't pay!". I was a little shocked at this. If he pays for the cab, the dinner, why can't I be the one to pay for drinks?
To be honest, sometimes I feel like if a guy pays for everything it's like I am more obligated to do things in return - which I don't ever. Also, I'm a grown woman at this point. I make money, you don't need to always spend yours. Yes it's so great that you are willing to pay, but I guess all I'm saying is that it isn't always necessary.
Most of my (girl) friends are pretty powerful women. We went to an engineering school, we are usually the only female at work, and we are pretty tough. So, sometimes I think it's hard to take chivalry. Granted I don't really mind when a boy offers to pay or hold the door for me. Most of the time it's nice. But, when can I start paying? What's wrong if I want to pay?
I recently went on a date where I offered to pay for drinks. I was ready to hand over the bartender money before my date took the lead and took care of it. The bartender looked at me and said "Girls shouldn't pay!". I was a little shocked at this. If he pays for the cab, the dinner, why can't I be the one to pay for drinks?
To be honest, sometimes I feel like if a guy pays for everything it's like I am more obligated to do things in return - which I don't ever. Also, I'm a grown woman at this point. I make money, you don't need to always spend yours. Yes it's so great that you are willing to pay, but I guess all I'm saying is that it isn't always necessary.
