you're not the boss of me!
Monday, February 06, 2006
Indian Dating
I have a lot of thoughts and opinions about dating. I'm in my mid 20's (as I have mentioned before) and the main focus of my life right now is when I am going to get married. Most of you may think that I am still young...I shouldn't worry about things like this! Well duh - those are true. But, I come from a land where brides are young and a wedding is the pivitol point of a womans life. A little sad, but true. My parent's don't mean to be anxious and put pressure on me; it's just what they know how to do. Their last responsibility to me is to get me married and on my merry way. Tra-la-la.
If I was brought up in India, chances are I would either be married or engaged at this juncture in my life - But I wasn't.
Let's talk about arranged marriages for the twentieth century though. Nowadays its not the typical "boy and girl are chosen by parents to marry" but more the "i have a son/daughter that you should meet". Our parents are now setting up our dates! They are taking an active role in my love life! And granted if an Indian boy is something I see myself marrying, then maybe my parent's little black book wouldn't be so bad to tap into. I mean, they know a LOT of people - a lot of good people.
Our parents generally tend to meet their friends in respectable places - temple, another auntie's house, friends of family, etc. An improvement maybe on the fact that I have met a handful of my friends at bars and or drunken college days? This new Arranged Marriage v.2.0.0.6 is not horrible. Granted it has its drawbacks, but overall I know all of our parents mean well. They want to feel that the family and the groom/bride are good people and will make their child ultimately happy. So mom, you can keep finding new boys you want me to meet. If it doesn't work out, at least I will have something new to blog on!
If I was brought up in India, chances are I would either be married or engaged at this juncture in my life - But I wasn't.
Let's talk about arranged marriages for the twentieth century though. Nowadays its not the typical "boy and girl are chosen by parents to marry" but more the "i have a son/daughter that you should meet". Our parents are now setting up our dates! They are taking an active role in my love life! And granted if an Indian boy is something I see myself marrying, then maybe my parent's little black book wouldn't be so bad to tap into. I mean, they know a LOT of people - a lot of good people.
Our parents generally tend to meet their friends in respectable places - temple, another auntie's house, friends of family, etc. An improvement maybe on the fact that I have met a handful of my friends at bars and or drunken college days? This new Arranged Marriage v.2.0.0.6 is not horrible. Granted it has its drawbacks, but overall I know all of our parents mean well. They want to feel that the family and the groom/bride are good people and will make their child ultimately happy. So mom, you can keep finding new boys you want me to meet. If it doesn't work out, at least I will have something new to blog on!
posted by Kripsie, 2:56 PM
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